I really enjoy being part of social networks (facebook, twitter, blogging, yelp, foursquare, gowalla, etc) b/c by nature I'm a curious and nosy person. I like seeing what other people are up to, what they are wearing, and what are their thoughts. Many of my close friends don't have time or aren't as committed to the various forms of social media as I am so I end up browsing blogs, scrolling through tweets, clicking on pictures, reading yelp reviews, etc of people that I don't really know-know, whether it be total strangers, friends of friends, or mere acquaintances.
Now, let me preface this by saying that I do respect freedom of speech and that people, including myself, are pretty much entitled to say what they want and post whatever they feel like. And as a reader, I'm entitled to shut up and stop visiting/reading if I don't like what I'm seeing. And I have done that. I can't be the first person who's blocked people's statuses on FB or un-followed someone on Twitter right? And I wouldn't be surprised if people would want to tune me out b/c I've been known to overshare and go on and on and on about something w/o shutting up. I think Jerry wanted to block me on FB cus I was checking into Foursquare too much :P Anyways, feel free to tune out, readers, if you think what I'm about to say is too much!
So. I am pretty disturbed by the amount of over-sharing that I've seen or that has been pointed out to me lately:
My friend told me about a profile picture she saw on FB. It was a couple in bed, they were in between the sheets, and she had her hand over her breast. How the hell did that one get past the censors? We reported it right away but last I checked it was still up. So gross. What's even more gross? In the same album, there's a picture of a stain. On the bed sheet. I'll leave the rest to your imagination. Seriously, TMI. Keep it in the bedroom, folks. No one needs to see ANYTHING.
People have been using social correspondence to publicize the state of their finances. I also think that's over-sharing. Nothing wrong with privately telling a friend how much you paid for your new car/house/toy, but don't write in a public forum. Less than a handful of people should know how much is in your bank account- yourself, your significant other, maybe your parents, and your accountant/auditor.
Finally, I'm quite irked by folks who feel the need to (over)share their affections for their significant other. I've had to block several people from my FB wall (including my cousins and former schoolmates) b/c really. No. One. Gives. A. Crap. That. You. Are. In. Love. Only 1 person needs to know and that is your significant other. Not the other 500 friends. There are 3 times that you get a pass to be publicly mushy on social media- the first week you get together, the day that you get engaged, and when you get married. Privately I'm a very mushy person and Jerry has absolutely no doubt that he's awesome b/c I pretty much tell him 50 times a day unless I'm grumpy and then it drops down to maybe 25 times. The point is that we really make an effort to not force the status of our relationship on anyone by avoiding excessive PDA while out (we all know of couples that use each other as chairs) and while online. That's the line that I've personally drawn for our relationship publicly, but others may have different lines.
I think everyone has such different views that you can't ever please anyone. Others might consider the Outfits of the Day bloggers to be oversharers. Or people who post about their travels on FB to be oversharers/braggers. But I personally love reading those kinds of blogs! Sure, they're hella showing off what they're buying/what they can afford but I totally sponge that shit up. While on the other hand, there are plenty of people who enjoy reading about mushy relationships and consumerism that I've mentioned above as my personal pet peeves. (Inappropriate pictures will NEVER be okay.)
But guess what? Thanks to a simple click of a button, we don't have to read about anything that we don't want to! :)
Okay, I'm off my soapbox.
In other news, I promise to return to regularly scheduled programming and overshare my wedding planning progress/projects (or lately lack there of) and reviews of restaurants I've been to!